Making personal well-being one of the cornerstones of happiness is important. It’s almost a fad now.
But is this always easy for everyone?
Emotions at the Workplace
For many of us feeling completely worry-free or “happy” is not always easy. The complexity of human emotions cannot be simplified to just thinking that being happy is equivalent to be simply being animated, in high spirits, cheerful, or even a party animal.
Most people think that the happier you feel, the better. Right?
But not necessarily. Various studies have shown that there is a blue side to feeling good and that the pursuit of happiness at all costs can make you feel even less happy.
Moderation Is the Key
Don’t get me wrong, the feeling of happiness does have benefits.
As reported by Medical News Today, happiness protects us from all kinds of illnesses, from heart attacks to colds. It makes us more resistant to pain. And it even helps us to live longer, more fulfilling lives.
However, June Gruber, a professor of psychology at the University of Colorado tells us to do it in moderation.
She compares cheerfulness to food: too much can cause more damage than benefit. Similarly, an excess of artificially induced cheerfulness can produce undesirable results.
“The research I’ve conducted has led me to conclude that too high a level of positive feelings artificially induced from outside stimulators can pave the way to taking risky behaviors, such as excesses in alcohol and food, and even an excess of confidence in our professional skills, which can become threats to our stability and can also drive us to be negligent with preventive measures and restraint.”
Prof. June Grubber, University of Colorado
The Positive Side of the Blues
Emotions are adaptable. They help us survive. Anger prepares us to fight. Fear helps us to flee when necessary.
When we are feeling down we feel small, limited. Occasional lows are normal, and they should not scare you. They are considered by specialists as a relief mechanism of our nervous system. We are not simply laughter machines. We are complex human beings.
The “blues” is not bad by itself. It is a transitory circumstance. It can help us rethink the most significant stages of your life (and mine).
How Much Is Too Much?
When it comes to happiness there is no “official” measure. The way I see it, it’s about seeking a balance. An occasional blues should be considered predictable (unless you are clinically depressed, which is a matter of professional assistance and is beyond the scope of this post).
And Finally …?
It seems that partying or cheerfulness does not always equate to happiness; particularly, not to self-sustaining happiness.
By the same token, an occasional blues does not mean that you’ve failed. What’s truly wonderful is our ability to be aware of what happens to us so as to act accordingly. To simply learn how to quiet down our mental chatter. To find what truly works for us and act accordingly.
The ultimate goal for you and me to to have access to longer-lasting joyfulness, fulfillment, and satisfaction with our lives.